Date ideas for people who hate Valentine’s Day


Maybe you feel like Valentine’s is just another commercial construct. Maybe you don’t like being smothered in little hearts and teddy bears and chocolates (that have way too many calories anyway!). You may just be averse to the idea of sitting in a packed restaurant and paying triple the usual price for smaller courses.


We totally understand. But maybe, you’d just prefer to spend some quality time with your significant other. Just the two of you; forget about all the rest for a while. Make time for one another; enjoy being with each other and just doing nothing.

Whether you’ve booked a weekend away from it all or you just stay at home and shut out the rest of the world, we know how you can create warmth and cosiness wherever you are. 


Colours with a message

Dim the lights and bring out the candles; the more the merrier. There is something magical about flickering candlelight that you just can’t create with artificial light. So fill your living room (or bedroom!) with candles of all kinds. Make sure that the room is well-ventilated; otherwise, the temperature will rise too quickly. 

You can pick from traditionally romantic colours, but there are other colours that will certainly set the right mood:

  • Reds represent passion and love. Red is invigorating; it raises your blood pressure and boosts your adrenaline;
  • Pink symbolises softness, tenderness, and happiness;
  • White represents purity, peace, and love. Plus, white is always a lovely contrast to other colours like red;
  • Purple is another sensual colour, evocative of royalty and luxuriousness;
  • Gold and silver accents are always a success. Silver represents trust and purity, while gold symbolises abundance and divinity.

Surround yourselves with candles, put some treats on the table, and just melt into each other’s embrace on the couch. Wonderful, isn’t it?

Start the day together

Valentine’s Day is on a Wednesday this year, so it may not leave a lot of room for romance. What you can do is spend the morning together before another hectic day starts. Just enjoying the peace and each other for a little bit. Put a dish of candles next to your cup of coffee to perk you up even faster.

Tip: they say the way to someone’s heart is through their stomach, and homemade always tastes better. Get up 10 minutes earlier and make your sweetheart some delicious, healthy banana pancakes.

Recipe for 6 banana pancakes:

  • 3 eggs
  • 2 ripe bananas
  • To taste: cinnamon, syrup, or fresh fruit

Mash the bananas and mix these with the three eggs. Use a frying pan with a good non-stick coating, heat a bit of oil, and then pour a bit of the batter into the pan. Fry the pancakes until golden brown on each side. Serve with a smile.

Get away

Whether you can manage to get away for the weekend or you’re just going to snuggle in at home, you don’t have to look very hard to find an intimate moment. You can even enjoy an outdoor, winter picnic despite the cold, winter weather.

What do you need?

  • A lot of blankets;
  • Plates, utensils, and cups;
  • A thermos of hot coffee, tea, or hot cocoa;
  • Snacks! Opt for easy sandwiches or wraps, or bake some sausage rolls and croissants. Add in a selection of cheeses, or some muffins or pancakes… basically, anything you like;
  • Some rustic candles or small Clearlight candles in glass jars.

Put on some warm clothes, lace up your hiking boots, and head out into the ‘wilds’ with your picnic and your partner. It’s a unique date with romance guaranteed! Plus, you can snuggle extra close out there in the cold…

Back to love

Even if you’re not a fan of Valentine’s Day, you love your partner and that’s what matters. Time is the best gift you can give each other. So get away from all that commercialism and concentrate on what’s really important: love.

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